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Whilst I’m in this mood, I’ve just been through some more ‘subscribers’ and unsubscribed a few more. Felt good! I’m not into vanity stats. Why the hell would I want subscribers who ignore me?

Don’t do me any favours by being here - that goes for anyone reading this too.

If you have a substack, I urge you to do the same. You deserve for people to anticipate you like a kid for Santa, not a Jehovah’s Witness at the fucking door.

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I just put stuff out there in case it helps ppl - you never know what someone is going thru or how they might be drawn into your stuff which may help them - the world is a big pool and my stuff is here for everyone, I'm not creating material for myself, just musing on modern life and how we cope with it

If I sold a magazine, I'd never know who the readers are, best to them - we just have a different approach, that's all

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Agree, I feel I have been the support act most of my life really. That's not to say I haven't done my own thing in my own way but a lot of the time I have 'looked after' people who would never look after me in the same way.

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Same. The programme really made me think actually. About just going for it with whatever. And raising yourself.

Not waiting for scraps that may or not come from others.

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Totally, I guess one of the positives from Convid is it showed us all truths about ourselves as well as others :)

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I totally get you, unfortunately...

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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

This is such an important message Julie. We need to be reminded that our brains are wired to focus on the negative rather than the positive. We often dwell on one critical comment from someone being disrespectful whilst ignoring many supportive words from the people who truly appreciate us.

I had a loved one block me on fb over Xmas for no reason or explanation. It really hurt me at the time and sent my confidence backwards with me questioning myself again. I’ve since re-assessed and come to exactly the same conclusion. You can’t make anyone love you. Never look for validation or approval from those who will never see your worth. Focus on the people who value and connect with. They are your real family. x

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I have so much patience….and then it’s gone. We can’t look for others to raise us, we must raise ourselves. X

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can't please everybody lol

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This is it, mate….

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It’s almost 3am. I’ve given up the attempt to sleep for now and thought I’d read for a while with a cup of something or other with camomile in it. I’ve found your post; what an interesting thought process was born from watching that tv programme…..how that phrase resonated. It would probably have washed over most of us but you have that insight. In a way, I’m now in the process of ‘ditching the downers’ but it’s not people but the ‘stuff’ in my life I lived with because someone else wanted it. Colour is one. My current home is decorated in muted tones and blues, masculine colours. My new home is going to be full of vibrant colours.

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That makes me so excited for you. Your new start. Yes I did that a few years ago actually. My house used to be neutrals, ‘made the most of space’ then one day I painted the living room orange the bedroom red and the kitchen turquoise. It felt like opening a box of jewels and I have never regretted that. I’m sure you will make it amazing- a place that truly reflects you x

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Thank you so much. It is really exciting. That’s exactly how I imagined your house to be by the way. Simply impossible to imagine you in neutral tones! X

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Sky rocket in flight. Keep writing those firecrackers and illuminating the darkness with your word bombs.

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Thank you. I intend to! :)🔥💥

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We all need to feel appreciated and seen, there’s nothing worse than feeling invisible and like an option...

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A good mantra for the day!

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I think so 💪🏼🔥😘

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So subtle in your way with words 🤣

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Always😂😂

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Wow!

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I wrote that post whilst the rest of the programme was still on, I was that buzzed up and keen😂😂

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🤣 love it!

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February 12, 2023
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Absolutely. You’re worth more ❤️

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