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I totally agree with your views about mental health virtue signallers online. And I especially love ‘honouring the cycle’ - I believe we go through cycles of seasons in our life, each cycle with an important lesson for us to learn to bring us closer to our truth/soul/something else...

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It's a healthy way to view it. Resistance is futile so just observe yourself and by doing that i believe the growing awareness assists us in finding our way forward.

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🙏❤️

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This manages to be wise, funny, heartbreaking and life affirming all at once. It’s the essence of resilience, albeit a a soft, yielding resilience (the best kind, like a willow) rather than the steely, brittle kind that is prone to eventually shatter and ultimately make more of mess of everything around it. I wish this piece could be used in teaching practice for mental health nursing to illustrate the concept of resilience , but it’s just too damn honest.

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The good thing (and bad thing) about getting older is you’ve been to most places (mentally) before, recognise the terrain, the approaching ‘weather’. But you also know all feelings are transient or certainly in their strongest colours. The image of the sweat lodge tent was key on this one for me. It pins down that notion of sitting it out til the new dawn.

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This truly resonates with me as someone who suffers with bouts of awful depression. When I am on a high, I am often euphoric and feel on top of the world but when I get low, my depression is a very dark frightening place full of suicidal thoughts. I have found over the years, talking to others can make the situation much worse. Most are sadly scared of more mental health problems and tend to distance themselves rather than actually help or support you. I’ve learnt better coping mechanisms to deal with it myself now and stopped that naive inner belief that someone was going come and fix or save me. I am the only person who has the power to change myself and my situation, but still so hard at the time when you’re stuck in the middle of a bad depressive episode 💔

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I am sure sometimes I must be undiagnosed biopolar as I can swing so crazily from high to low. So many of us with similar experiences.

Yes talking isn’t for everyone. Taking some sort of action helps me - the gym, cleaning, cooking and remembering not to listen to songs that set me off!x

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Yep, I am another one with intense emotions and wild mood swings too. Its so often about finding the motivation to break those unhealthy patterns and cycles for me to get out of that dark headspace. Distracting ourselves away from the gloom! x

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Sep 7, 2022Liked by Julie Dee

Thank you for your beautiful words julie they have hit me in the heart..

Currently waiting for the flies to find new shit

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Wish they’d hurry up x

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I hear you ❤️

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🙏🏾

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Gee I could eat dat trifle!!! I play piano + sing a lot daily to expel gloom spiders + a quick brisk walk helps or a cold shower lols! I aim to have projects which are just a little bigger than my belief so I can grow thru them + feel they are more important to me than my external reality, eg writing a book or creating a piece of music ..

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Sounds like good advice.:)

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They did, because today….IT’S AUTUMN!!!!🍂🔥😍❤️

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That’s right. All things must pass and all that. Xx

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Yes, if course you can. Not like I can is it?

I wondered reading it back if it sounded too arsey but hopefully depressed people can still see the humour in their situation.

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