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On a slightly different note, years ago when I was a student, a guy that liked me sent me two conkers and a firework in the post.

In retrospect I am sure he was trying to be quirky, funny…..

I just thought he was fucking odd, slightly scary and ran for the hills. He should’ve stuck to mix tapes.😳😂

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LOL!

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Fucking odd, and, since 2014, illegal under schedule 11 of the Explosives Regulations (not the conkers).

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I was a student way, way before 2014…. This was circa 1994😂

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Reading them both together, it makes me wonder…. do two people ever experience it together at the same frequency, intensity? In true union?

The dance of fireworks cannot be synchronised, predicted…. and one light is always leaping slightly above the other isn’t it? Top dog.

Can a ‘firework love’ ever be sustained or must feelings of such energy eventually burn out?

Hmm….

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I think we often put on an act at the beginning of relationships that are almost impossible to sustain. Using your analogy, my first marriage fizzled out and once the kids were off I thought I might sparkle again with someone. I honestly believed there would be someone in the world to bring the brilliance back. Sadly I just made the same errors over again and I have another damp squib. I don’t bother much with fireworks now but then I’m a lot older than you and am no sparkler! 🤦‍♀️

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Bless you.

The heart is ever hopeful. Or mine is.

Maybe the true beauty of the firework is that it is meant to be short lived?

We’ve all been to the show that goes on forever, wanted to go the fuck home….😂😂

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November 5, 2022
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I’ve heard you say that before. I think it was you. Either that or there’s another cynical old git knocking about 😉😉😂

No. I think it’s an unfortunate framing of something that should be shared but yes hormones are definitely involved and perhaps we are better off looking at the idea of sustainable partnerships (sounds a bit WEF😂😂) rather than ones based on romantic love. That’s my head talking not my heart, obvs.

My heart still believes….

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November 7, 2022
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I think many cultures approach marriages/long term partnerships from a perspective of friendship with a bit of other stuff chucked in, and perhaps this is a healthier - even if much duller -expectation.

Many of the ills suffered by the human race in my view, stem from people expecting too much from life due to having fake ideals shoved in our faces too much in films, TV etc.

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I love your soul, Julie

I really miss you on twitter

x

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Bless you. I miss it there too, all my friends xx

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So true. And bless you too Julie. X

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