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Please share this one to any mum (or dad) struggling to find their identity having been thrown a curveball xx

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That’s some bad ass writing. Though my situation is different, I grasp the sense of solitary struggle for identity. I find that the relentless march of child development, coupled in my case with divorce and geographical distance, keeps throwing curveballs. I have to remind myself that some of my previously proudly worn badges are now woefully out of date.

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Thanks. Yes we all have our own shit going on. Everyone is getting to grips with something then just as you do, it changes. Such is life, hey?

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This made me cry Julie. Thank you so much for verbalising my experience as a parent of 2 special needs autistic children. So accurate and beautifully written. x

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Oh Nat I know you get it. We are the strong mothers our kids need. I know it🔥💪🏼

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You are an incredible mother! Thank you!

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Bless you x

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This is beautiful julie!! 😭😭😭💯💯😊Xx

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Thank you xx

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I never got the yellow badge so was never invited to those groups or excluded as I didn’t have the yellow badge. Always felt like an outsider. Your article is amazing & reminds me we don’t need a badge or indeed others approval.

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Thanks. I think the ‘yellow badge’ invite was very much about where I live - a middle class pseudo hippie enclave. That and funding available for council Children Centres that has since diminished.

These experiences shape us, Wendy, whatever they are. X

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Wonderful Julie. This should be published. 2 of my grandchildren are highly sensitive. It’s a thing. My DIL has dealt with it by keeping them beside her at all times, home schooling, the lot. I really wish she had chosen a path more like yours but she bears no resemblance to you whatsoever and that’s a compliment to you! They have never faced any challenges or learned how to overcome them.

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Thanks Janette. Yes I know you’ve mentioned her before.

It’s a hard road but no matter how tough it is for a parent it can’t compare to the difficulties faced by the child themselves. I try not to lose sight of that.

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Absolutely. I worked with students who have learning differences for a long time. At post 16 and then uni level my job was to level out the playing field for them as much as possible and help them to thrive. Had some spectacular success stories with the right support and encouragement, which more often than not wasn’t available to them at school.

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I love this Julie ❤️❤️❤️

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Thank you. It’s from the heart ❤️

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This is beautiful julie!! 😭😭😭💯💯😊Xx

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I am in awe at your beautiful writing Julie, never underestimate how naturally gifted you are.

Lots of love

Trudi xxx

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