I never doubted that you would win this but you should not have had to go through it. It's a disgrace. The wealth this country has and most of it flows upwards. Congratulations on this victory and I hope your son enjoyed his first day at high school.
I'm happy for you both but sorry you had to fight. Please be very kind to yourself at this time as I know how much the mental angst can affect the physical body.
That’s brilliant news Julie. You have had to fight so hard to get your son to school, I know your stress levels must have been through the roof. God Bless you 💖
Heart wrenching! He's so lucky he has you as a mother to teach him these important life lessons. Wishing you both well as you struggle on. You shouldn't have to, as you say. It should be so simple.
It’s crazy they create so many barriers. It really is a case of only the fittest surviving. These systems expect to lose people at every fence. Beleaguered, confused parents jaded with it all. Weakened, depressed.
And they do, sadly.
But every parent that secures provision - ‘beats the system’ - gives another that tiny spark of hope so desperately needed at the time.❤️
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Oh Julie, how exhausting and demoralizing! I add my hopes to those who wish that your son can be himself and learn in the environment you’ve worked so hard for. May it shower your family with rewards.
Wow. I always sensed they make it tough but wow. It’s disgusting but a far more insightful lesson than he’ll ever get at school. Love your calm perseverance- it’s something you and I share and I’m proud of you.
It’s nothing personal as such, they just want to try and save money and assume people won’t challenge anything. Picked the wrong woman.
Not sure I’m always that calm. I’m a bag of nerves sometimes, Steve, but I’m definitely one for persevering. I never know if I’ll win the battle but I always know it won’t be because I backed down.
You really have to fly by the seat of your pants. Money for example. I was signing bloody all sorts with solicitors Just thinking “oh whatevs, will just pay it back at £1 a week for the rest of my life if I have to”😂
People like me don’t give a fuck about money, about materialism or any of that so that ‘fear’ cannot be held over us. Freedom and justice is all we care for. And that makes us the scariest people of all.
Well done Julie! I saw all this happen with my friend whose son (my Godson) was finally diagnosed with Asperger’s after years of fighting for him to be statemented (what a strange description that is). He had a terrible time at a “normal” school where it was considered a good thing to mix with ordinary children but all that happened was he was bullied as he was “different” and he used to hide in the classroom cupboard.
More years again fighting for a special school that would teach him how to live in our world as comfortably as possible for him..to help him try and connect the missing emotional link.
It “made” him and he has discovered a great talent for electronics, particularly in the theatre world.
My friend’s marriage didn’t survive and she was also battling Lupus at the time, but because she would never give up fighting, she ended up with a son she is so proud and fiercely protective of.
I hope this gives you some hope for your son’s future. With a mum like you, I know you’ll always have his back..
I out this on Facebook too because I’ve not been on there for ages and this is why.
Been so strung out fighting all this bollocks.
Anyway today, he finally went to school
Yay!!!!!🎉
I never doubted that you would win this but you should not have had to go through it. It's a disgrace. The wealth this country has and most of it flows upwards. Congratulations on this victory and I hope your son enjoyed his first day at high school.
Thank you, Julia.
I knew I’d carry on fighting til the end, just didn’t know how broke or weakened I’d be at the end of it!
I'm happy for you both but sorry you had to fight. Please be very kind to yourself at this time as I know how much the mental angst can affect the physical body.
I just want to get back into my self care routine again, making time to go to the gym and stuff. Certainly does take its toll.
You must take that time for yourself. You deserve it
Oh that’s absolutely the best news. You are an inspirational mum. Never gave up even when you were pushed to the limit. Xx
Yes! We got there in the end!🔥🥰🎉
That’s brilliant news Julie. You have had to fight so hard to get your son to school, I know your stress levels must have been through the roof. God Bless you 💖
Thanks.
I’m sure there’ll be another battle at some point but at least we have a lull. That is something worth celebrating ‘🥰🎉
well done, Julie. a mum any son would be proud of 💪🙌🙏
Cheers :)
You can't see it, but I've just raised my glass to you.
Heart wrenching! He's so lucky he has you as a mother to teach him these important life lessons. Wishing you both well as you struggle on. You shouldn't have to, as you say. It should be so simple.
It’s crazy they create so many barriers. It really is a case of only the fittest surviving. These systems expect to lose people at every fence. Beleaguered, confused parents jaded with it all. Weakened, depressed.
And they do, sadly.
But every parent that secures provision - ‘beats the system’ - gives another that tiny spark of hope so desperately needed at the time.❤️
Congrats Julie! Happy for you and your lad 👊
Been a long time coming!
Well done you for being so determined. Hope he enjoyed himself.
Think it was a mixed bag but he doesn’t hate it. I’ll take that for now 🙏😉
Oh Julie, how exhausting and demoralizing! I add my hopes to those who wish that your son can be himself and learn in the environment you’ve worked so hard for. May it shower your family with rewards.
Thank you Tara :)
Wow. I always sensed they make it tough but wow. It’s disgusting but a far more insightful lesson than he’ll ever get at school. Love your calm perseverance- it’s something you and I share and I’m proud of you.
It’s nothing personal as such, they just want to try and save money and assume people won’t challenge anything. Picked the wrong woman.
Not sure I’m always that calm. I’m a bag of nerves sometimes, Steve, but I’m definitely one for persevering. I never know if I’ll win the battle but I always know it won’t be because I backed down.
I don’t give up.
Same. Nerves are natural energy fight or flight. Who dares wins.
It’s people like you who eventually smooth the road for others and they’ll never know.
Who dares wins totally sums it up.
You really have to fly by the seat of your pants. Money for example. I was signing bloody all sorts with solicitors Just thinking “oh whatevs, will just pay it back at £1 a week for the rest of my life if I have to”😂
People like me don’t give a fuck about money, about materialism or any of that so that ‘fear’ cannot be held over us. Freedom and justice is all we care for. And that makes us the scariest people of all.
Well done Julie! I saw all this happen with my friend whose son (my Godson) was finally diagnosed with Asperger’s after years of fighting for him to be statemented (what a strange description that is). He had a terrible time at a “normal” school where it was considered a good thing to mix with ordinary children but all that happened was he was bullied as he was “different” and he used to hide in the classroom cupboard.
More years again fighting for a special school that would teach him how to live in our world as comfortably as possible for him..to help him try and connect the missing emotional link.
It “made” him and he has discovered a great talent for electronics, particularly in the theatre world.
My friend’s marriage didn’t survive and she was also battling Lupus at the time, but because she would never give up fighting, she ended up with a son she is so proud and fiercely protective of.
I hope this gives you some hope for your son’s future. With a mum like you, I know you’ll always have his back..
Oh that’s lovely to hear.
I don’t know if this is the right school or not for him (council chose it not us, sadly) but it’s all we have now and am willing to give it a go.
Success stories keep parents of SEN kids going ❤️
Thank you. Indeed!