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I wish there was another button to press as the like symbol seems to be wrong for this piece.

I’ve never read a personal rape experience before and with your vivid description of it I now understand more how women freeze when it’s happening. Of course they’ve no choice as men are physically stronger and you don’t want to get hurt anymore.

I held my breath when reading it but your response to such a dreadful experience shows you haven’t let it define you (hate that modern phrase) and women must never think that it was their fault. It wouldn’t have mattered how you dressed-you just unfortunately met an ignorant nasty man who’s never been taught respect for women.

I don’t need to celebrate Women’s Day. I already know we have an enviable inner strength because as nurturers it’s par for the course that we have to take more knocks in life and it makes you stronger.

You’ve survived many knocks and it’s made you who you are that’s given you a wonderful talent for writing and poetry.

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Thanks for your comment.

Our experiences make us, don’t they?

I believe women’s hard earned rights are under threat at the hands of the woke brigade but I am under no illusion that this ‘day’ is all about marketing opportunities and even possibly seeding division.

I still have an open heart and I still adore men in all their fascinating guises. There are plenty of nasty women about too, let’s face it.

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Oh Julie!

That's made me so sad and fuckin angry for you!! I truly Hope that cunt got some sort of karma along the way in his miserable shitty existence!!! 😭😡

♥️ xxx

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Just getting on with your life and refusing to live as a shell is the best ‘revenge’ any of us can take.

I still go out alone - to bars, to dinner - whatever and wherever I want - late at night too. I refuse to be a shadow of myself, ever.

For me that is the best way of giving these people a massive ‘fuck off’.

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Such a powerful read Julie. Thankyou for sharing such a personal journey. 💖💪💖

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Thanks. This was one of the first pieces of ‘proper’ writing I ever put *out there*.

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So sorry this happened to you Julie, some men can be real pigs.

It isn’t unfortunately going to get any better thanks to the inclusivity drivel, women and their rights are under full attack.

I have an 18yr old son, he’s not buying all this crap along with his friends, he says women have a right to safety and their own spaces and sports, men should not be in them, they are mentally and physically different no matter how much they pretend.

He had his 18th party at home a few months ago, one of his female childhood friends brought their younger sister with them. One of the lads who was a friend of a friend was all over her coming on really strong, my son and his friends pulled him to one side and told him to back off as he was out of order. The lads excuse was she was nearly 16 so fair game, he got a blunt no it was unacceptable and inappropriate.

He backed off and they cut ties and have not spoken to him since, my son said we don’t want to be mixing with those who would take advantage of those who are vulnerable. I’m proud of my son and his friends for taking this stance, it does make you wonder though as to who is it that are bringing young men up to see girls and women as fair game.

Our criminal, justice service does very little to protect women and children from violent and sexual abuse, you only have to look at the pitiful sentencing, that they pay lip service but don’t take it seriously, rapists and abuser’s would never be released if they did.

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Sounds like your son is a young man to be proud of. It’s good to hear about the younger generation. So often we are led to believe they all have similar ideas thanks to mass indoctrination taking place in our education system and aided by MSM, but they are not the same. Thankfully!

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I've had a few encounters myself... I spoke out about one of my incidents and basically nobody believed me... I tried to carry on with life putting it to the back of my mind...thinking I could just carry on with life but yes I am here still. But it's fucking hard at times. I never deserved anything that happened to me. It makes you start asking questions and unfortunately I can't always answer them. Thank-you for sharing your story . X

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The more women I speak to the more I realise that most of them have either suffered abuse as a child or rape, sexual assault or violence as an adult. How messed up is that!

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I'm actually shocked how many women have had some firm of abuse. Yes I know men have as I know a few but I'm just shocked really at the sheer number of women that have suffered. It's very sad 😔

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If a man attempted to rape me I would put an end to him, period. It's not about physical strength, it's a battle of will power. Ladies understand the power of your will & harness it to dominate your situation in every circumstance. I have been chased by an Iraqi "refugee" and stalked by an Italian half pint but I think quicker than they do & lose them in moments

People only see you physically if you let them

I can pass in & out of a crowded room at will & no one ever sees me unless I will it. Take time to learn the power of your mind & will as clearly it may save your life. Be in complete control of every aspect of your life - determine, predetermine. Be confident 💯

Long before you are woman you are human - I mean, all are equal in the field of the mind, it's just I am more equal than most. Anticipate everything. Act with decisiveness - build an aura of "don't feck with me"

Ladies, in the mind you are supreme over ANY man! Believe and walk free

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I don’t see myself as a victim, far from it. Shit happens.

If someone lets them self *be seen* that’s not an invitation to be raped.

Never say never I say.

The nature of rape is that someone doesn’t want it to happen. I believe I did what was best at the time to preserve my personal safety.

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March 9, 2023
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A long time ago xx

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March 9, 2023
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Thanks, Viv. I think it’s one of the first pieces I put *out there*.

Thought I may as well stick it on here. A pause for thought.

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If you have to rape someone to have sex with you, it’s time to leave the marriage.

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