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Julie Dee's avatar

For anyone who feels similarly to me, Melinda Tankard Reist is worth a follow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/19gni5y3j8/?mibextid=wwXIfr

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Tara Deacon's avatar

Wow this is awesome!! I love what you brought up in this article! Every point you made was on point!! Our society has become so degenerate!!

I really loved this qoute

"If you’re not fully shaven, taking it up the arse in S & M gear, well….. damn…..what’s wrong with you Susan?!!"

It's funny but it's true and scary true!! It's amazing how decency and a sense of propriety has now become a what's wrong with you topic!!!

I really enjoyed my reads here today! I'm hitting subscribe! I can't wait to read more of your work!! I love the diversity of topics! And the way you write about them!!

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Julie Dee's avatar

This made me tear up. Had one of those nights when I thought “should I bother carrying on with the writing”. You were a massive injection of confidence when needed. Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

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Tara Deacon's avatar

Julie you are an amazing writer!! I'm so blessed to have come across your space this afternoon!! I love reading other people's work often more times than writing my own stuff!! I believe in reaching out to people I can connect to! And your work is so awesome! I truly connect to it!! I'm sorry you were having a rough night! Your work can touch people!! Sometimes in ways you may not even suspect!! And just when you think nobody's paying attention! I'm not really a writer...it's alot of pressure, it's way to technical and I can't take the rules 😅🤣😂🤣 I have since identified as an experience sharer!! If I can touch 1 persons life in a positive way, then my personal mission is accomplished!! Even if that's in the comment section of someone else's work 🥰 you made my night!! Thank you for letting me know I helped brighten your day a little!!! I can't wait to read more of your work!! Your so amazing!!! 🌻🌻🌻

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Trudi Nicola's avatar

It’s bloody scary, Julie. And I don’t know how it can be stopped.

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Julie Dee's avatar

We can only call it out and attempt to steer the ship elsewhere.

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M H's avatar

Yes Mary Whitehouse was a visionary.Every sort of porn is on our TV programmes.The watershed was after nine o clock and Mary kept the screen clean and she reacted to her rules.Eveything is sexualised even adverts.Girl are taught how to be sexy and boys macho.They not educated in self worth and valued for who they are .Our society has became Amercanised.They are botoxed and breast enlargements and bum too.. Plastic not fantastic only if your name is Kardashian.😂😂😂.

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Julie Dee's avatar

It’s been a slippery slope hasn’t it?

A very sad state of affairs. All the fillers and surgeries are very worrying.

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Gill T's avatar

This is bang on, Julie. Depravity is being normalised and our kids don't stand a chance.

An example. Two girls in my daughter's year were friends, and both seeing (aka shagging) the same lad. He spent the night at the one girl's house then the other girl picked him up from there in the morning. Both girls knew and couldn't see anything wrong with it.

At the moment so many of that age group pretty much seems to have sex on a 1st date time and time again ...and it's expected and normalised.

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Julie Dee's avatar

It’s very sad. I’m no angel but can see that sex has become like most other things in our society, disposable and meaningless to so many. Sex without emotional attachment is one thing but the acts that are becoming more common place take it to a whole new level of sordid.

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The Drift's avatar

Well said. The Pandora’s Box analogy is very apt.

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Jules's avatar

You lay out all the elements of these frightening trends with such articulacy. Thank you Julie. For what it's worth, I always thought Mary Whitehouse had a point. A courageous woman who faced ridicule, and sometimes perhaps she didn't get it right, but she could see a very heavy pendulum swinging and she did what she could to counter it. We are still living with the repercussions now. Those who helped form the permissive society could not in their wildest dreams have anticipated some of the things we see today...or perhaps they did! Thanks as always for this brilliant piece.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Those my age were probably more familiar with the caricature of her rather than what she actually said. She was seen as an old fashioned fuddy duddy, a strait laced throw back. These days I’m sure she’s seen as more of a visionary. There’s always something to learn from the last generation.

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Madeline Waterer's avatar

I agree about Mary Whitehouse, as she could see that give some people an inch and they will take a mile.

This seems to have happened as predicted, with minority sexually deviant activist groups getting the most exposure (literally) and “say” and managing to infiltrate into the education system with no one brave enough to say this is wrong! This has gone way beyond sex education.

Parents really have to step up now and stop this insanity.

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Jules's avatar

I agree. I am not a parent but I have been extremely worried by the twaddle being taught in schools lately.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Yes and so much is contracted out to private groups funded by goodness knows who with goodness what agenda.😬

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Carol Finch's avatar

I'm now trying to work out what Mary would have thought about sex choking lessons in schools lol. World has gone a bit mad really.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Indeed. I remember when putting a condom on a banana was considered radical. How far we’ve come (down the wrong path)

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Carol Finch's avatar

Way too much too soon. You can't embed everything in their baking brains so fast.

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MikeyBuoy's avatar

I do hope “race to the bottom” wasn’t a deliberate pun. 😂

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Julie Dee's avatar

😂😂 stop😂🤣

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MikeyBuoy's avatar

Oops - I sent before I’d finished. Great piece Julie. I think this degeneracy is a natural progression when the true purpose of sex is denied, i.e. the union of man and wife and procreation of children.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Like everything, we seem to go past the point of reasonable. I am glad there are things like contraception so there is some choice in procreation, I’m glad people don’t feel too inhibited in how they express themselves but things seem to have gone too far the other way.

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MikeyBuoy's avatar

Many will disagree with me but I believe contraception to be part of the same problem. It detaches sex from responsibility for its consequences and focuses the act toward sensual pleasure only.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Its an interesting topic for sure.

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Rob Devaney's avatar

This is one of the major drivers of the Trans ideology: porn-addled men with autogynephilia wanting to be fu**ed and in the process, degraded, as a woman

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Julie Dee's avatar

I agree. That’s why I said “ Depravity was rebadged as creativity, or even identity”.

I don’t think all people who think they are the opposite sex are like that but sadly, it can easily be confirmed that many are because of the large number of sites that boast of it.

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Rob Devaney's avatar

@marycatedelvey on Twitter sadly has all the receipts 😔

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Dean The Sated Ire's avatar

Really good piece Julie.

I was thinking of this topic in relation to Mary Whitehouse this morning and thought similar to you. While I hated her brand of Christian outrage, could I deny that there is a line that we've crossed in the years since?

There are plenty of women who see porn as empowering, and I don't think that's the result of being coerced by men, although it's clearly true in some cases. In my experience, talking to Millennials, let alone Gen Z, about sex, it always feels transactional. They seem to have a deep aversion to romance and the act of tenderness seems robotic, like a motorway sandwich you grab when travelling.

I'm all for people enjoying their kinks, have at it I say, but there's something far deeper going on than exploring sexuality and, at the risk of sounding like a patronising man, hedonism (ideological in this era) always lands heaviest on the shoulders of young women.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Thank you for your thoughts.

Yes, romance does seem to have gone out of vogue, doesn’t it? I suppose that ties into the way that everything we consume is so ‘cut to the chase’ and blown up, from the over stimulation of today’s video/computer games to over flavoured food. It’s about getting to whatever it is without thought for the journey itself.

I’m not saying women aren’t into porn, some are. I’m saying that it’s a business that is largely fuelled by men. The main consumers of it.

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Dean The Sated Ire's avatar

Yeah, and it’s the male sex drive that can be so all-consuming that needs to be directed in the right direction. Cultivating perversion into the mainstream is disastrous. Save it for the bedroom.

The sexualisation of pre teens is the most nauseating to me. 11 year olds wearing legins that mimic a kind of kinked-up nudity still jars me. What kind of culture has little to say about that?

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Julie Dee's avatar

What once went on behind closed doors, these days seems more and more public. A culture of over sharing has amped this up.

There were always dubious things happening with kids but these days it’s just gotten more mainstream. I think there’s a Shirley Temple movie where she plays a prostitute. Even my own era, the 80s in the UK had ‘the mini pops’ that had sinister undertones. It’s getting way more widespread though.

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Dean The Sated Ire's avatar

Yeah, sexual predators always hid in plain sight, but they rarely celebrated it. Not all perverts are sexual predators, and perversion isn’t inherently wrong, but sexual predators have attached themselves to movements, both fashionable and political, in 2025.

A lot of what went on previously was nativity. I think the Mini Pops was more that than something sinister.

There’s no excuse for this version of it.

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Cori Bren's avatar

Bravo Julie. Some of the largest porn organizations are run by women now so I’m not sure how much misogyny is to blame. I have two sons and there doesn’t appear to be settings in which men and women ‘date’ anymore. Girls are going after the looks and money and now have ‘a backup plan’ and boys resort to video games and porn. I was an awkward teen at best. It was hard to get a date but by heavens EVERYONE was dating. Everyone. Now it’s groups of girls and boys and the selection processes are brutal. No one understands practice. No one holds hands. Many of todays children are uncomfortable being touched. Like people have to seriously ask if it’s ok to hug someone. And that’s not all spectrum stuff. It’s extreme discomfort and possible self hatred, which for many is caused by porn. This industry is part of a concerted effort to break the human tendency toward relationships and marriage. Happy couples don’t earn them much money. Solitude and sex with a computer are not in mankind’s natural destiny. Rant over⚡️

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Julie Dee's avatar

Whilst I agree that some may be owned by women, that in my opinion, harks back to the point I made about twisting the lady boss narrative to lead women to believe it’s empowering. Many of those involved in the slave trade were of the slave’s own race. They got them on board with it in order to convince others. It didn’t make it right.

I agree that the age we live in, all the kids want to be influencers, have their own channels.

I also agree about it being an attack on family values too.

It’s very sad 💔

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Cori Bren's avatar

Tragic at its core. Like Trudi I don’t know what to do to stop it, other than share the dangers. Truly it is fathers who can have an influence- by saying “it’s not ok. It’s not harmless. It aids in your own emotional demise.” I’ve said those things but the vast number of consumers are boys and they don’t want to have these talks with mom.

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Emma Patricia's avatar

A hundred percent agree!

I say bring on love and romance,connection on a soul level is beautiful.

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Julie Dee's avatar

Yes - maybe one day when that becomes niche, it will be fashionable again.

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Bettina's avatar

With you all the way on this 😱

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Julie Dee's avatar

Scary times for youngsters

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

I've always called it a spiritual blindness. If a life is tempered by the innate gut instinct of right and wrong, then the sprit is guiding these decisions. There is no limit when it comes to darkness and evil. It's horrific the abuse perpetrated on our young by so-called adults. England has crossed so many lines and we are right behind you. They are doing the same thing here in the U.S. Great piece. ox

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Julie Dee's avatar

Thank you, Deb. Yes values are lacking and darkness finds entry in emptiness.

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Jo-Ann Petrarca's avatar

My goodness, what is happening in this world? Is there anything sacred to people. Children grow up too fast and the horror of afixiation😱. This is terrible news Julie.

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Julie Dee's avatar

I know 💔 Glad some people are calling it out.

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Jo-Ann Petrarca's avatar

Truly, they need to do something to bring awareness to these kids and their parents!

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