Enabling V Disabling

It’s a fine line….

Enabling V Disabling

A plant needs no ladder to the light in order to bloom.

In fact, the ladder will crush it.

I say this, with regard to all the so-called ‘helpers’. Those who profess to enable, but in actuality, block sunshine with their heavy handedness and overkill.

If you want to help someone to flourish;

- Foster their access to light. Do NOT attempt to be their sun.

- Water them with encouragement BUT be mindful overwatering will dilute the very thing you find attractive.

Cultivating dependency in someone is NOT assisting them.

AND

Taking credit for a person’s success you supposedly ‘helped’ says more about you than it does about them.

Sometimes DIS-ablers will look very much like ENablers.

Can you tell them apart?

Imagine a beautiful building with scaffolding around it.

If the scaffolding were never removed, would we truly get to see the beauty in the architecture?

Or……would we forever see….a clumsy looking heap of shit?

‘Construction work’ only remedies if the supports are eventually removed. If not, it OBstructs!

And…..some people are not meant to be pinned down, analysed, dissected.

A butterfly’s magic is in her wild movement - be it full flight or the quiver of a brief encounter - which always feels like such a fleeting gift. If you’ve ever seen a dead one in a museum, you’ll know what I mean, the stark difference.

Advocacy is the only job in which the aim is to make oneself redundant.

I invite you to look at your own life and those around you. And also the way you, yourself interact with others.

Are you hindering or suffocating someone under a misguided belief you are helping them?

Is someone doing this to you?

How does this belief serve you/them?

Scaffolding has to come down.

Plasters have to be removed.

And

Butterflies were not made to be held.

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